Keeping Strong After A Death

Posted by on May 17, 2017 in Uncategorized | Comments Off on Keeping Strong After A Death

 

Death is not a topic that most people like to talk about. It’s morbid, sad and something that requires a lot of strength. As people, we have compassion and that means that we care deeply about the people around us. If we didn’t care, we wouldn’t grieve and to process a death, we need to grieve.

We are all very likely to experience the death of a loved one at some point in our lives, it’s never a matter of if, it’s a matter of when. Once you’ve experienced the initial shock of losing someone you love, you are able to start speaking to Melbourne funeral directors to make arrangements for that final goodbye. Sometimes, a funeral can offer closure to you and your family; it’s a way to be able to be free to grieve after that goodbye is said. It’s also a way to truly let it hit home that you are saying goodbye to someone you probably saw every single day. The key is that you allow yourself to grieve effectively.

Grief hits us in many ways and it is our brain’s way to processing the facts that a death has occurred. You’ll always grieve in your own, unique way and there is no wrong way to grieve. There are some people who outwardly do not change their demeanour when they grieve, seemingly continuing on with life as if nothing has occurred. It’s important to realise that this is never the case. They understand that a death has happened but they also understand that life tends to move forward regardless of whether your life has come to a screeching stop.

Grief is a funny thing as no two people will cope with death the same. Grief manifests differently at different stages; you may feel is physically as well as emotionally. Physical grief is that ‘hit by a truck and winded’ feeling you get when you receive a shock. Most people will try and shake you out of your grief for weeks and months after the death of a loved one, but you have to ask people for patience while you process what has happened. For those we care for dearly, it can take a long time to get out of the funk of missing them and the idea you should ever ‘get over’ them is going to be about as useful as a chocolate teapot.

The way you grieve, as long as it doesn’t hurt other people, is perfectly fine. Whichever way you choose to place your feelings, you will never be wrong in doing so. the body and mind have to feel the loss in all its intensity, so never try and push feelings of grief away from you. Embracing the grief is likely going to be the most painful thing you ever face, but with support and time, you can slowly heal and come back into the sunshine again.